The cottage itself is beautiful, as you will see, with sea views, sunrises over fields, coastal decor and log burners.
We loved it and will be returning back that is for sure.
Here are a few of our favourite photos from our week...
This guest post was firstly a chance for USS to talk openly about what she experienced and to lay out the thoughts she has had to keep internal since, as still there's much apparent confusion and a lack of clarity about what took place that weekend. It was also agreed that it could be a piece that will challenge readers to think about where they would stand in such a situation, or, if they have been in that situation, to offer some consolation and help to what to do next.
I hope to be able, at the right time in their lives, to discuss consent with and educate my boys about what should and shouldn't happen and when. Yes, it is a grey area, as are many things in life. Very often all kinds of media around us are guilty of portraying situations that can influence a person's correct judgement or incorrectly shift the burden of responsibility on to the wrong person. I am not saying everyone should stop, get out a contract/declaration and have it in writing before anything commences (although the popularity of Mr Grey may mean this starts happening!!), but there's always a point where you consider the other person, and if you aren't at all sure (and let me tell you, semi-consciousness and the inability to walk is a big red flag here!) then you stop. Is there a point of no return, is there a time when you can't refuse and stay stop, I don't think so.
I think I can honestly say that there were times when, particularly when I was younger, this could have easily happened to me. I've been drunk before (this may not surprise you) with friends that I felt comfortable to get drunk around; I've also been drunk, lost my friends in a bar/walked to the loo alone/walked home with a "friend" and had a man make a pass and I've been able to say no; I've also been asleep when someones made a move they shouldn't have but thankfully I wasn't drunk and I was able to fight them off and say no! Have you been in that situation before, would it have been your fault had something happened you weren't able to consent to? And yes, this applies to men as much as women. I had a friend at university who did the whole chivalrous thing and walked a friend of his girlfriend home early from a group night out after she said she was ill, only to have her force herself on him and blackmail him to do something he didn't want to do otherwise she would tell everyone, including the police, he had attacked her. He too was full of regret and confusion over what had happened and whose fault it was, but the look of terror in his eyes, and the way he became so withdrawn afterwards, left no doubt in my mind what had happened and who was at fault.
I'm very grateful to USS for allowing me to post her story and embracing the chance to have her say and help anyone else affected by this difficult subject.
So what are your thoughts/feelings/opinions? What would you have done? What have you done?
You be the jury.
If this has affected you and you'd like to talk to someone about any aspects of sexual violence, assault or violation then you can contact Rape Crisis (for women and girls) onlinehttp://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/ or call 0808 802 9999 or Survivors UK http://www.survivorsuk.org/ for men and boys or anyone needing support can contact the Samaritans
It is important, like USS, you at least share it with someone, either confidentially, anonymously, or to someone you know and trust.